Condolences that’s a sad read, your Nan’s end, not her life, bears a lot resemblance to my Mums death, still no idea what happened. Condolences, unfortunately this is another of the “joys” of getting older, the deaths of parents, aunts, uncles and more alarmingly your peers, cousins, friends etc.
So very sorry for your loss I hope that she is resting well Josh and that you have plenty of good memories to cherish x Oh Dawg, how heartbreaking. So very sorry for your losses x
Have a cry and wet that top lip mate ,don't bottle it up and give it the chance to creep up on you. I've lost a good mate to suicide and you never stop questioning the reasons behind the why and it can really twist you up if you allow it to. Condolences fella
Sorry to hear that mate, but she sounds like a real character Not to get all politcial, but I lost my Grandma last Decemember at 94. She had lived her first 92 or 93 years with such grace and dignity, and seeing her at the end, and probably for the last year of her life, was heartbreaking - I feel like she deserved so much more. She was on “end of life” care from July, until she died in December. That 5 months was awful for the family, especially my mum who would work all day and then drive the hour to Stockport to see her in an evening. That’s why I’d be in favour of the assisted dying bill, let’s allow people to die with the same dignity that they lived.
Completely agree with you there mate. Thankfully, was only prolonged for Nan for just under a fortnight, but for most of that time she was at best uncomfortable and at worst agitated. If there's a more dignified way that's possible than I'd have trouble opposing that. Can't imagine what it must have been like for you and yours for almost half a year - but hopefully the many years of good outweighs that.
That's a bastard right there. And sorry for your loss @JoshBCFC. My old man was an orphan and my mom's dad died when I was a toddler so I only had one grandparent and she was the bomb, so, so funny, it was a massive loss to the family when she passed a few years ago..
I've got a bad blast of Laryngitis coming on ,the wife loves it because my voice is deeper than Lee Marvin singing Wandering Star in Paint Your Wagon ,well it was yesterday anyway, today it's full on Barry White according to the Mrs ,I reckon Darth Vader because I can rock the f*ck out of a James Earl impression even when I'm not sick ,but sadly she has no wish to hear a Sith Lord sing.
Started a new job in April in Tokyo that turned out to be pretty bad. Got offered my old job back with the chance to switch to a different part of the company next April doing something more in line with what I want to do. That is good news ofc, but the apartment I rented in Tokyo has pretty much cost me 2-3 months salary so far and I will get a moving out fee from them probably this week, for cleaning and damages and what not. Japanese landlords are notorious for tryibg to rip tenants off with these charges so that is something I am not looking forward to having to fight/pay. On top of that, my father in law was rushed to hospital yesterday. At first they thought it might have been a mild stroke, but now they are saying it could be kidney failure. We initially planned to visit UK this Christmas, but with the money I have lost with that job in Tokyo and possibility of partner needing to go home to see her family this summer if her dad is really sick, I think that plan will need to be scrapped
Shame about the job, but at least you had the balls to go for it, otherwise you'd always have wondered 'what if?' All the best to your father in law, this getting old malarkey always seems to have something up its sleeve as the years go by, fingers crossed for him!
The wife has just had a call to say one of her mates is about to pass away ,mere days or hours left. She was diagnosed with inoperable Cancer a while back ,but in her last diagnosis she was given just a few weeks roughly three weeks ago and made the decision she didn't want to see anyone. My wife phoned her sister and she confirmed her wishes ,but if she wanted to go see her then she couldnt tell her not to ,but warned her it's not the girl she remembers and it would be better if she remembered her the way she was The wife is in bits ,I know her too and I'm in shock ,such a beautiful woman who was never out the gym,never smoked ate all the right foods and as healthy as they come,only to now succumb to the f*cking vilest disease known to man. Life is shit and there's no reason behind why it's cut so short for such lovely people while the absolute grime of the worst among us on this earth live long and prosper ?
Cancer is a horrible, senseless, indiscriminate abomination and one of the things I think of when considering the (non) existence of a God. I have a very good friend of 40 years who was raised a Catholic who believes that when 'good' people pass away so young whilst evil pieces of shit get to live long and nasty lives it's because God has 'taken them for a higher purpose'. As an atheist that's not convincing to me but I can see how it might make a smidgeon of sense to those who are comforted by their faith. Anyway; awful, awful news for you and your wife, but I know the two of you will be there for each other. All the best.
Thanks mate ,the news has hit the wife hard ,I'm guessing it's a mortality thing and the whole impermanence of life after the disease , she had the same cancer as her ,but they caught hers early and moved swiftly with the immunotherapy and blasts of chemo, sadly her friends cancer was too advanced for that treatment. Tw@t of a disease.
Update to this. CKD Stage 5, so his kidneys have pretty much shut down. He has developed diabetes because of it and needs to start taking insulin to help with blood sugar levels. He will be heading to a bigger city on Thursday to have an operation done to enlarge his veins so he can start having dialysis done, although he has to wait 3 months for that. He is 70 years old, smoked since he was a teenage and has probably drunk more than he should have done in life. No idea what the long term outlook is as I know dialysis can help prolong life for a couple of years, but not sure if that is best case scenario or what can be reasonable expected.
The wife's mate passed just over an hour ago ,we were driving back from my lads when she received the text
